We all have them, some stronger than others, some from birth and some that come and go. Friendships are something that we all experience and today I am just writing exactly what I feel…
I have always thought of my blog as somewhat an online diary. I know that it is saturated with lipsticks, my latest outfits and the occasional cookie recipe and foodie review, but every now and then I like to write down things that I’m feeling and more recently, I have been feeling quite a lot. The past year or so I have seen more changes in my relationships that I ever have. Granted I’m still young, but my mother has always said that as you get older your friendship group shrinks and I’m beginning to happily accept that now.
I guess it all started when I left college, and everyone kind of went off to do their own thing. Venturing off down the country to different Universities, getting full-time 9-5 jobs and shooting off to travel the world meant that I began to distance with people. Not on purpose, or in any malicious way, just through the natural progression of life I guess. (Christ Megan, remember you’re still only 22). I began to blame myself for not keeping in touch with people and loosing out on friendships, becoming jealous watching people make new friends and so I became a lot more introverted. But as time went on, I understand now that that’s okay and that it’s not my fault, it’s just, well, kind of how shit happens.
As my closest circle of friends has shrunk by half over the past two years, I have began to realise what I need most from my friendships. I have realised that I would rather have genuine, honest and real relationships with only a handful of people, rather than half-arsed, see once-every-now-and-then relationships with about twenty people. Being more active and engaged with those special few, have made my happiness level reach an all time high and made my life a lot more stress free.
I have also began to notice what I value in friendships and how important it is to remove negative and toxic relationships from my life. I have learned that I need people who are honest in every aspect; Who have honest intentions, have honest conversations and have an honest energy – it really is everything. Friendships where we build each other up, support each others accomplishments, accept any flaws and at the end of it, have a bloody good laugh. Those friends who know what you’re thinking, will tell you if something looks bad on you and isn’t afraid to tell you when you’re being a diva. That’s what I need in my life and that’s what I feel like I am moving towards.
I don’t know if this post is coming across as a bit of a ramble. It’s one of those things where everything makes sense in my head, but it’s hard to communicate it in text. Ya get me? Maybe I’ll try again in a couple of months, see how things are. But all in all, I feel as if my friendships are becoming more genuine and real. Maybe that’s what happens when you grow up? Let me know your thoughts down below, I’m hoping it’s not just me…
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